How do you increase erotic pleasure? Practice the five lust languages, says Susan Bratton. Learn more in this episode! — How do you increase erotic pleasure? Practice the five lust languages, says Susan Bratton, “Intimacy Expert to Millions”. She is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life […]

How do you increase erotic pleasure? Practice the five lust languages, says Susan Bratton. Learn more in this episode!

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How do you increase erotic pleasure? Practice the five lust languages, says Susan Bratton, “Intimacy Expert to Millions”. She is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Susan has spent over two decades doing something that censorship and shame have long tried to silence: teaching people the pleasure-based sex education they never received. As CEO of Better Lover, Personal Life Media, and The20, she publishes the world’s most comprehensive library of orgasmic lovemaking education and formulates precision sexual vitality supplements built on the science of blood flow and desire.

In this episode:

• How to turn communication into foreplay
• The biggest mistakes couples make when giving feedback about intimacy
• What is the Sexual Soulmate pact?
• The myth about spontaneous desire
• The importance of curiosity in creating more erotic pleasure

EP 725: Susan Bratton – The Five Lust Languages For Lifelong Erotic Pleasure

Highlights of this episode:

Five Lust Languages (FLESH)

• Susan introduced the Five Lust Languages acronym FLESH: Fearless feedback; Lover Space; Erotic vigilance; Soulmate Embrace; Heat.
• Purpose: a practical framework for sustaining and increasing erotic pleasure across decades.
• Rationale: orgasmic intimacy supports longevity (hormonal cascades, oxytocin, NK cells) and emotional health; sex education is often missing.
• Emphasis on growth mindset — sexual skills and variety can be learned and improved over time.

Communication, Safety & Techniques

• Fearless feedback: normalize asking for what you want in the moment; use specific, nonjudgmental phrasing and “softer no” + alternatives.
• Sexual Soulmate Pact: a tool Susan created to establish bedroom communication norms and reduce shame/pecking-order reactions.
• Lover Space (atmospheric safety): set conditions for relaxation and surrender (lighting, towels, lube, timing, novelty) to enable female arousal which often needs more time/blood flow.
• Erotic vigilance & seduction with integrity: make small, right-sized offers; read partner’s state (fight/flight/freeze/fawn/fornicate); maintain curiosity and adjust.
• Practical tips: slow down, co-regulate (holding, eye contact), prioritize relaxation before technique; options for addressing lubrication and blood flow (topical vaginal estrogen, nitric oxide boosters).

Sustaining Heat: Novelty, Play & Solo Practice

• Heat/new relationship energy: maintain novelty and variety to prevent boredom and create “upward pleasure spiral.”
• Erotic playdates and sex-life bucket list: Susan’s method — brainstorm, categorize A/B/C (want to do / maybe / not now), schedule playdates to learn and bond.
• Solo pleasure: practice interoception, explore multiple orgasm types and body regions (clitoral, nipple, mouth, core, etc.) to expand capacity.
• Long-term approach: practice, iterate, laugh at mishaps, and view experimentation as bonding and growth; sex tech and new modalities expanding options.

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Connect With Susan Bratton

• Websites: https://betterlover.com/  https://susanbratton.com 
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/ 
• Twitter: https://x.com/susanbratton 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trustedhotsexadvisortomillions/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLover 
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbratton/

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