What is polarity, and why does Mat Boggs say it’s the secret to attraction? Here are some of the mistakes you might be making that are keeping you from love. — Mat Boggs says polarity is the secret to attraction. He is a best-selling author, relationship coach, and co-founder of the Brave Thinking Institute’s Love […]

What is polarity, and why does Mat Boggs say it’s the secret to attraction? Here are some of the mistakes you might be making that are keeping you from love.

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Mat Boggs says polarity is the secret to attraction. He is a best-selling author, relationship coach, and co-founder of the Brave Thinking Institute’s Love & Relationship Division. For nearly two decades, he has helped women worldwide attract high-quality men and lasting love. He’s appeared on The Today Show, CNN, Headline News, Oprah & Friends, and The Hallmark Channel. His book, Cracking The Man Code, reveals how men think, love, and communicate.

In this episode:

• The biggest polarity mistake smart, successful women make
• What women get wrong about feminine energy
• Why doing more in dating and relationships sabotages your love life
• The first internal shift to make if you’re a planner and emotional leader in relationships
• A man’s deepest desire

EP 701: Mat Boggs – Why Polarity is the Secret to Attraction 

What is polarity, and what’s the biggest polarity mistake you see smart, successful single women make in terms of masculine and feminine energy?

I was speaking on stages with other relationship experts who were talking about masculine and feminine energy and polarity. I realized I had been operating in my feminine energy in romance. My older sister became my first dating coach. It was attracting women who took the lead and pursued, and when my masculine took over, the relationship took a dive. When I met my now wife, Irene, I finally stepped more fully into my masculine, and she was in her feminine, and it’s the best relationship I ever had.

We all have both energies and they’re completely dynamic. Masculine is providing and pursuing. Feminine is receiving and pulling. In the courting stage, whatever energy we lead with, we attract the opposite energy. Feminine energy is not fake or passive. It’s strong.

What makes a woman irresistible to men?

She’s relaxed and having fun around a man. She trusts him.

You share the story of Tanya, the former military commander. What was she doing that sabotaged her love life?

Tanya was used to taking charge. It didn’t get her the result in her love life that she wanted. She opened up the part of her that was feminine. She learned to be proactive and create the space for a man to fill. What do you want? The masculine wants to fulfill that. Instead of planning a hike, tell him, “You know what I’d love? A hike. Would you plan it for us?” Her job was to celebrate him following through. 

A lot of powerful women feel feminine energy is fake, weak, and passive. Not true. It’s powerful. It’s okay to receive. If you have resistance to receiving, it’s usually because of a lack of self worth. You’re not attracted to anyone except people who are taken, married, or emotionally unavailable. Self love controls how open our hearts are. If you want big love, you have to open the door wider. 

The key is a self love practice to help us open the door to our heart. We need people to connect to our authentic self. Then we can receive. You are enough…without overplanning and overdoing for men.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

The quality of our lives is dependent on the quality of hard conversations we’re willing to have. The feeling you have for love is evidence it’s out there for you. Every action is moving you forward.

Connect With Mat

• Cracking The Man Code Book: https://bravethinkinginstitute.co/book/ 
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mathewboggs/ 
• YouTube: https://youtube.com/matboggs 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matboggsfan 
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mathewboggs 
• Brave Thinking Institute: www.BTI.com

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