Dating Advice: Old Dating Rules vs. New Dating Guidelines

Out with the old dating rules, and in with new dating guidelines and principles. Tune in to Last First Date Radio to hear Talia Koren! — Why should we dump the old dating rules? Talia Koren is a dating podcaster, content creator, and entrepreneur who went on 64 first dates in under 10 months before […]

Out with the old dating rules, and in with new dating guidelines and principles. Tune in to Last First Date Radio to hear Talia Koren!

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Why should we dump the old dating rules? Talia Koren is a dating podcaster, content creator, and entrepreneur who went on 64 first dates in under 10 months before meeting her husband on Hinge. Now, as the founder of Dating Intentionally, she helps women in their 30s–50s date with purpose, build real connections, and enjoy the process.

In this episode:

The old rules of dating and why they don’t work anymore
The new dating guidelines
How to get out of old dating programming
Why people today are afraid of commitment and vulnerability
What to do when someone says they’re ready for commitment but aren’t

EP 709: Talia Koren – Old Dating Rules vs. New Dating Guidelines

Highlights of this Episode

Main theme: Old dating rules vs. new guidelines

Old “rules” (e.g., waiting three days, three-date sex rule) are games/manipulation.
Reframe dating as games vs. boundaries vs. standards.
Recommendation: ditch manipulative games; use clear boundaries and healthy standards.

Practical dating guidelines

Slow dating: align actions with goals, reflect after dates, sit with discomfort.
Show clear interest (don’t hide feelings); be direct about communication preferences.
Women encouraged to make first moves; both partners should share initiative by “turning towards” each other.
First dates should be low-commitment (coffee/walk) as a vibe check.
Focus reflections on values, how you felt, and reciprocity — not superficial markers (car, degree).
Ask targeted, personal questions related to your needs (e.g., career, travel) to evaluate fit.
If actions don’t match stated intentions (e.g., says wants a relationship but is inconsistent), move on.

Personal experiences/examples

Talia: 64 first dates in 10 months, then met husband outside her “type”; attraction developed slowly; prized slow burn, reciprocity, and lack of red flags.
Examples of dealbreakers: physical boundary violations (unwanted grabbing), stalking/over-researching, Venmo-for-sex behavior.

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