Men are too scared to flirt, and this is impacting their mental health. Here’s how men can become more confident in flirting and dating. — Marni Kinrys believes men are too scared to flirt, and it’s leading to a mental health crisis no one is talking about. She’s the founder of The Wing Girl Method, […]

Men are too scared to flirt, and this is impacting their mental health. Here’s how men can become more confident in flirting and dating.

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Marni Kinrys believes men are too scared to flirt, and it’s leading to a mental health crisis no one is talking about. She’s the founder of The Wing Girl Method, host of the Ask Women Podcast, designer of the F-Formula, and an award-winning female dating coach for men ages 25-85 at every stage of dating and relationships. Marni is known for her blunt, no “fluff” approach and honest insider tips, tools and advice on what women really want vs. what they say they want.

In this episode:

• Why men today are so scared to flirt
• The impact on men’s mental health
• How men can improve self-confidence
• Why so many men are afraid of rejection

EP 718: Marni Kinrys – Are Men Too Scared to Flirt? The Mental Health Connection No One’s Talking About

Highlights of this episode:

Background & premise of Marni’s work

• Marni became a “winggirl” after helping people connect at a singles mixer; built a coaching business from early grassroots demand.
• Wing Girl Method offers programs to teach men how to understand women and attract partners authentically.
• New podcast: Turn Her On — female perspectives and practical guidance for men on attraction and flirting.
• Core philosophy: dispel myths about what women want and teach practical steps for connection and attraction.

Flirting, dating dynamics & mental health

• Common male myths: “She’s out of my league,” “Don’t bother/respect means don’t approach,” and underestimating their own value.
• Key dating skills: be playful/flirtatious, share personal passions (emotion over data), ask engaging questions, and conversation threading.
• Flirting fundamentals: light teasing, playful challenges, eye contact, appropriate touch, and showing passion — about 60% connection / 40% flirt early, shifting later.
• Authenticity and follow-through build trust: say what you mean, keep commitments (e.g., texting expectations), be honest about dating status and intentions.
• Harm of failing to flirt: confusion, loneliness, anger, blaming others, and worsening mental health when men feel they “did everything right” but get no romantic progress.
• Shame and socialization: men often taught to hide emotions; younger generations are receiving more emotional education and show increased emotional expressiveness.
• Balance and boundaries: avoid love-bombing or manipulative breadcrumbing; distinguish charming/assertive from aggressive/narcissistic behavior.
• Practical dating advice: broaden “type” through experimentation; treat dating as exploration and inventory of preferences.

Communication tips & closing guidance

• Be direct: ask for what you want (dates, texts, exclusivity level) clearly and honestly.
• Women can give clearer cues: provide “green lights” and avoid over-reliance on subtle hints.
• Feminine initiation: women can initiate in gentle, confident ways (e.g., ask for his number or say “I’m flirting with you”).
• Final advice for a “last first date”: speak up about desires; asking increases the chance of getting what you want.

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Connect With Marni:

• Website http://winggirlmethod.com/
• Facebook https://www.facebook.com/marniwinggirl
• IG https://www.instagram.com/winggirlmethod/
• TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@marniwinggirl
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@marnikinrys
• Turn Her On Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2mYjCNaEb0OmwhIbesDAKz

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