How do you reignite desire and emotional connection in midlife and beyond? Tune in to Last First Date Radio to hear Andre Lazarus! — How do you reignite desire and emotional connection in midlife dating and relationships? Andre Lazarus has the answers! He is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and relationship expert featured on the UK […]

How do you reignite desire and emotional connection in midlife and beyond? Tune in to Last First Date Radio to hear Andre Lazarus!

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How do you reignite desire and emotional connection in midlife dating and relationships? Andre Lazarus has the answers! He is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and relationship expert featured on the UK TV series Virgin Island. He helps individuals and couples reconnect with desire, build emotional safety, and communicate openly about intimacy. Through embodied practices rooted in the Somatica® Method, Andre supports people in midlife and beyond to create passionate, secure, and deeply fulfilling relationships.

In this episode:

• What is embodied intimacy
• How couples in long-term relationships rediscover desire when the spark fades
• How to create safety and connection in intimacy

EP 708: Andre Lazarus – How to Reignite Desire and Emotional Connection in Midlife Dating and Relationships

Highlights of this Episode

André’s Background

• André Lazarus: intimacy coach, ex-military, moved from security/tech into embodied intimacy work.
• Based in Barcelona; has experience with therapeutic intimate practices and tantra-influenced approaches.
• Offers online courses and a free resource for embodied loving via his website.

Embodied Intimacy & Coaching Approach

• Embodied/somatic intimacy = focusing on bodily sensations over cognitive/goal-oriented sex.
• Coaching emphasizes presence, practicing communication, boundary/consent skills, and gradual somatic work.
• Reframes sex beyond penetration/orgasm; values slow, varied, non-goal-oriented sexual experiences.

Midlife Relationships & Alternatives

• Midlife often brings increased self-awareness, willingness to change, and reassessment of relationships.
• Alternatives (non-monogamy, relationship agreements) can be viable options when sexual needs differ.
• Communication, curiosity, and incremental exploration are recommended before major decisions.

Trauma-informed Care & Starting Steps

• Sexual trauma requires trauma-informed, qualified support; combine talk therapy with embodied modalities.
• Practical starter step: list what’s working vs. missing in intimacy, then pick a first actionable step (research, discovery call, workshop).
• Trust intuition when choosing practitioners; request discovery calls and check references/testimonials.

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Connect With Andre

• Website: https://www.coming-closer.com/
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/coming-closer/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@comingcloserwithandre
• Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/comingcloserwithandre?_rdc=1&_rdr#

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