How to Overcome Pelvic Floor Issues After 50

Did you know that pelvic floor issues impact many women over 50? My podcast guest, Sara Reardon will help you get the help you need. — Pelvic floor issues are common but not normal. Help is available so women can take back their bodies, says board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Sara Reardon in her […]

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Did you know that pelvic floor issues impact many women over 50? My podcast guest, Sara Reardon will help you get the help you need.

Pelvic floor issues are common but not normal. Help is available so women can take back their bodies, says board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Sara Reardon in her new book, FLOORED: A Woman’s Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage (pub date June 10, 2025). Dr. Sara has built a robust community online as “The Vagina Whisperer” (664K Instagram followers; 13 Million TikTok Views) teaching women how to prevent as well as overcome pelvic floor issues at every stage of life with simple tips like “squeeze before you sneeze” to more advanced protocols to prepare for childbirth or navigate changes during menopause.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How Sara became known as “The Vagina Whisperer”
  • What is the pelvic floor, and what are the common symptoms of pelvic floor dysfunction?
  • What a woman should do if her doctor tells her her pelvic pain or leakage is essentially a normal part of being a woman, aging, pregnant, postpartum, menopause, etc
  • Some of the most common pelvic floor problems and what women do to treat them
  • Top tips any woman can do right now to take care of her pelvic floor
  • Why there’s a stigma around talking about women’s health “down there”
  • How pelvic floor problems evolve over time if left untreated
  • How women’s partners can help them with their pelvic floor pain
  • What a woman can do if she can’t find a pelvic floor therapist near her

EP 665: Sara Reardon – A Woman’s Guide to Overcoming Pelvic Floor Issues After 50

Why did you write FLOORED: A Woman’s Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage?

I never planned to be an author. People kept saying I should write a book as a resource for women. I got an email from a Harper Collins editor asking me to write the book. I wanted women to feel less alone in every stage of life.

How did you become known as “The Vagina Whisperer”?

I’ve been practicing as a pelvic floor specialist for 18 years. Over the past five or six years, there’s been more awareness on social media. I started sharing information with my girlfriends and patients. So, in 2016, I started my account “The Vagina Whisperer”, because women weren’t getting this important information. I wanted to give them tips and tools to help them understand their bodies and give them relief.

What is the pelvic floor, and what are the common symptoms of pelvic floor dysfunction?

The pelvic floor supports your uterus, ovaries, your bowels, and for women, it affects menstruation and intercourse. If you have issues like urinary leakage, discomfort with bowel movements, or painful sex, it has to do with your pelvic floor.

What should a woman do if her doctor tells her her pelvic pain or leakage is essentially a normal part of being a woman, aging, pregnant, postpartum, menopause, etc?

Find a new doctor if you’re dismissed or minimized. You deserve to be treated with respect.

What are some of your top tips any woman can do right now to take care of her pelvic floor?

If you’re perimenopausal or menopausal, talk to your provider about topical estrogen, learn about the right lubes for more comfortable sex. Make your muscles stronger by knowing the proper way to pee – by letting the stream flow. For bowel movements, use a stool to relax and not strain. Pushing weakens your pelvic floor.

What do you think about the “big vulva” industry that’s booming selling women products like vaginal deodorant?

As we have more awareness of vaginal health, there are a lot of businesses that have released products that are for deodorizing vaginas. This is dangerous. It can put you at a higher risk for infections. If there’s a strong odor, get yourself checked for infections. There is a normal scent to vaginas.

How can women’s partners help them with their pelvic floor pain?

Knowledge is powerful. These are muscles and tissues in our body. If there’s pain, something isn’t right. If you had back pain, you’d tell your partner, too. First, understand where the pain is coming from. Second, ask your partner to help you. Do you need them to do yoga with you before sex? Use a lubricant? Communication is key. You’re not broken. It’s a WE problem, not a YOU problem.

What should a woman do if she can’t find a pelvic floor therapist near her?

You have a lot of options. Go to pelvicrehab.com or pelvicglobal.com or google to find a therapist near you. If you can’t find one, you can also do tele-health to get educated about your pelvic floor. I have an online exercise program. You can also buy my book to learn more.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

The most important work we can do is on ourselves. That’s where you’re going to find the most growth. When my husband and I were getting married, someone asked what I liked about him. A better question is, “do you like who you are when you’re together?”

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Can a Relationship Survive When Only One Person Does the Work?

When only one person does the work, can a relationship last? That’s the big question we answer on this episode of Last First Date Radio. — The age old question: when only one person does the work, can a relationship last? Dr. Lee Baucom has spent over three decades helping people shift from a disconnected […]

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When only one person does the work, can a relationship last? That’s the big question we answer on this episode of Last First Date Radio.

The age old question: when only one person does the work, can a relationship last? Dr. Lee Baucom has spent over three decades helping people shift from a disconnected marriage to a loving and connected relationship, even if only one is trying.

In this episode:

  • What is a Pause Button Marriage?
  • What are the three levels of connection?
  • What can only one partner do to save a relationship? 

EP 704: Lee Baucom – Can a Relationship Survive When Only One Person Does the Work?

Highlights of this episode:

Signs of a one-sided relationship

  • If you’re dating and notice things are one-sided: carrying emotional weight is a yellow/red flag.
  • Notice patterns within yourself in a long-term relationship that feels one-sided: stepping in unasked, always planning, feeling resentful.
  • Hidden vs. stated contributions: partners often overestimate their input in a relationship.

Causes and dynamics of a one-sided relationship

  • Childhood imprints (imago) shape who carries emotional labor.
  • Mutual training: one partner may shut down the other’s attempts to help.
  • Chaser–spacer dynamic: pursuing closeness often causes the other to distance.
  • Pause-button effect: couples stop intentionally nurturing connection after commitment.

Ways to untangle and reconnect if you’re in a one-sided relationship

  • Reality-test your assessment: are you missing the other person’s contributions?
  • Reduce criticism; adjust expectations and make explicit agreements with each other.
  • Pace reconnection: use invitations and light, low-pressure activities to reconnect.
  • Target three connection levels: physical (touch), emotional (listening/validation), spiritual (values, hopes, fears).
  • Small, steady increases in reciprocal behavior work better than big, pressured interventions.

Coaching vs. therapy and how to go on your last first date

  • Marital therapy has limited statistical effectiveness; coaching can be more outcome-focused.
  • Assess team compatibility (values, day-to-day functioning) when choosing a partner.

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How to Balance Life and Love; Strategies for Success

How can you balance life and love? Dr. Margaret Cochran gives us actionable techniques to create more balance in your life. — How do you balance life and love? That’s what we’re discussing today on the podcast with Dr. Margaret Cochran. She is a transpersonal psychologist, licensed clinical social worker, educator, author, and media personality […]

balance life and love

How can you balance life and love? Dr. Margaret Cochran gives us actionable techniques to create more balance in your life.

How do you balance life and love? That’s what we’re discussing today on the podcast with Dr. Margaret Cochran. She is a transpersonal psychologist, licensed clinical social worker, educator, author, and media personality with 25+ years of experience. She blends traditional, transpersonal, and energy psychology to help clients heal and thrive. Featured on BBC, CBS, NBC, and more, she’s known for her whole-person approach to wellness and hosting programs like Wisdom, Love and Magic.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How to know when things are out of balance in a relationship
  • Is balance really possible?
  • How to balance life and love if you don’t have healthy examples in your life
  • How to talk to your partner about balance
  • Tips you can use to achieve balance between life and love

EP 679: Dr. Margaret Cochran – How to Balance Life and Love; Strategies for Success

How do you know when things are out of balance in a relationship?

We work too hard and we’re praised for it. We start to fall apart. If you’re well rested and satisfied, you’ll produce a much better product at work. And as an individual, we need to matter to ourselves first or we can’t be there for anyone else.

Stop, sit back, and take a second, and ask yourself, “What is it that I need?” It may take practice if you’re not used to it. Your needs are vital, not wrong or “needy” or self-centered.

Is balance really possible?

Balance is where there’s as much coming in as there is going out. As women we get pressured to put more out than in. Often women don’t know what they want. We lose ourselves, and then we can’t give or receive love.

How do you determine how to balance life and love if you don’t have healthy examples in your life?

Talk to a professional who can help you define your values and boundaries.

What are some actionable tips you can use to achieve balance between life and love?

Go back into your childhood when you were eight or nine years old. What was your favorite thing to do? Go do it and watch what happens. That touches the little person inside of you. It’s the part that gets ignored. That part of you that’s about being and not doing. It’s the most intuitive part of you. Fill a bowl with fun things to do.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

Remember to date yourself first. Being in love with yourself will allow you to have a healthy relationship.

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Why High-Performing Men Secretly Struggle in Love

Why do high-performing men secretly struggle in love, and how can women spot the signs? Mike Elliot tells all in this episode. — Why do high-performing men struggle in their romantic relationships? My podcast guest, Mike Elliot, shares his wisdom in this episode of Last First Date Radio. Mike is a Relational Leadership Mentor and […]

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Why do high-performing men secretly struggle in love, and how can women spot the signs? Mike Elliot tells all in this episode.

Why do high-performing men struggle in their romantic relationships? My podcast guest, Mike Elliot, shares his wisdom in this episode of Last First Date Radio. Mike is a Relational Leadership Mentor and Men’s Initiation Guide. He guides men to lead with “Relational Authority”, anchored in initiation, integration, and inspiration. He’s the co-host of “The Sacred We”, where he helps men transform their relationships – starting with themselves – and create legacies of love, presence and purpose. 

In this episode:

  • What led Mike to this work 
  • The most common blocks for high achieving men in relationship
  • How to help men show up with more presence
  • How Mike’s clients relationships transform when they learn Relational Authority™
  • The cost of not learning RA™

EP 707: Mike Elliot – Why High-Performing Men Secretly Struggle in Love

Highlights of this Episode

Catalyst for Mike’s work

  • Mike Elliott’s personal catalyst for doing this work: adopted twice in his first year of life, marriage ended after 7 years; experienced a “dark night” that led to seeking mentorship and eventually began transformational coaching.
  • Shifted from intellectual self-help to embodied, relational work after mentorship and integration.

Core framework & concepts of Relational Authority

  • Three pillars: Initiation → Integration → Inspiration.
  • Relational Authority: (VAR) Vulnerability (radical transparency), Acknowledgement, Reassurance.
  • Emphasis on “bottom-up” embodiment: bodily felt sense, nervous-system regulation, and relational attunement over pure intellect.

Practical approach & client outcomes

  • Reading/books alone are insufficient; guided relational work, mentoring, and men’s circles enable deep integration.
  • We heal in relationships: safe presence and attunement allow processing trauma held in the body.
  • Outcomes reported: improved relational reciprocity, emotional maturity, better partnerships, and more sustainable enjoyment of life/legacy.

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Reinventing Love and Life After 40

Have you thought about reinventing your love and life after 40? Wendy Valentine did, and here’s her inspirational story! — Wendy Valentine reinvented her love and life after 40. She’s the author of Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Play and the host of The Midlife Makeover Show, a top-rated podcast […]

Life after 40

Have you thought about reinventing your love and life after 40? Wendy Valentine did, and here’s her inspirational story!

Wendy Valentine reinvented her love and life after 40. She’s the author of Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Playand the host of The Midlife Makeover Show, a top-rated podcast for women in midlife. After her divorce at 45, she learned to “marry herself” first—rebuilding her life from the inside out. Now she empowers women to embrace self-love, rediscover joy, and attract relationships rooted in authenticity and alignment.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What it means to marry yourself before dating after divorce
  • The FREEDOM Framework for transformation, and how to use it to heal from heartbreak
  • How to design your ideal relationship and have an amazing life after 40

EP 694: Wendy Valentine – Reinventing Love and Life After 40

You’ve said that one of the best things you ever did was “marry yourself.” What does that mean, and how did that change the way you approached love and relationships?

When I was 45, I got divorced, was unemployed, $150,000 in debt, had chronic lyme disease, and I had a lot of losses at one time. I went through depression and panic attacks for the first time. I started over with everything and didn’t know how to begin. My saving grace was a dream to drive an RV across the country. I went for it, and despite all that I was dealing with, little by little, I took steps towards that dream. It took two years, and now, I’m living my dream.

“Marry yourself” is getting to know yourself. Most of us don’t know our values and what we want and need. Tune into your needs and wants. What does it mean to truly love yourself? Do the work before dating again.

In your book, you share your F.R.E.E.D.O.M. Framework for transformation. How can women use those steps to heal from heartbreak and open up to healthy love again?

After my divorce, freedom meant freedom from money issues, toxic relationships, etc. So I created the FREEDOM Framework, which are the seven steps I took after divorce to heal.

F: free yourself

R: reset your life

E: envision your new future

E: embrace and explore

D: detach from tomorrow

O: own your best self

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

Make yourself your forever first date. It’ll all work out. Get to know yourself, take care of yourself. Leap and the net will appear.

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What’s Your Conflict Management Style?

Conflict management is difficult for most of us. In this episode, discover your conflict management style and how to do conflict better. — What’s your conflict management personality? Dr. John Eliot, PhD, co-wrote a book on this topic. He mentors executives and advises professional sports teams, coaches, and athletes on psychological principles for enhancing health, […]

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Conflict management is difficult for most of us. In this episode, discover your conflict management style and how to do conflict better.

What’s your conflict management personality? Dr. John Eliot, PhD, co-wrote a book on this topic. He mentors executives and advises professional sports teams, coaches, and athletes on psychological principles for enhancing health, performance, and workplace culture. He has consulted for NASA, the US Olympic Committee, the Mayo Clinic, Sony, and Microsoft. Eliot has held professorial appointments at the University of Virginia, Stanford, Rice, SMU, and the Texas Medical Center, winning teaching awards at each.

In this episode:

  • Why John decided to focus his research on conflict personalities
  • How our conflict responses are rooted in predictable patterns
  • How we can predict behavior in high-pressure or emotionally charged situations
  • How someone’s ‘Conflict’ personality changes between home and work
  • Why it’s important to understand our triggers

EP 650: Dr. John Elliot – What’s Your Conflict Management Style?

Why did you decide to focus your research on conflict personality styles?

My co-author and I do a lot of organizational training, and we discovered that the tools that help us understand ourselves are fantastic for communication when things are going well. But when a speed bump comes along, something knocks you off kilter. We veer away from our normal communication style during those times.

What are the five conflict personalities?

  1. Avoider
  2. Competitor
  3. Analyzer
  4. Accommodator
  5. Collaborator

How can someone’s ‘Conflict personality’ change between home and work?

At work it can be easier to be rational. Many people have a different go-to at home than at work. One of the reasons is the mission is different. We can compartmentalize better at work and keep our emotions from spiking. At home, the mission is the relationship, caring for your family and loved one. So the lines are blurred.

When it comes to conflict, why is it important to understand our own triggers?

Knowing your hot buttons is crucial so you can predict where you’re more likely to get away from being yourself. It will also help you know which of your conflict styles will be the habits you go to. Find one little thing you can do to get back to center. Do you need a breather? To be heard? To listen?

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

The fundamental needs we all share are a need to be heard, to be cared for, and to be of value. Understand that it’s about your helping them and them helping you meet each other’s needs. Try to understand the value of the other person. Be curious and interested. We are designed to be in pairs and groups. We can accomplish a lot together. We’re teammates.

How to Get Along with Anyone: The Playbook for Predicting and Preventing Conflict at Work and at Home by John Eliot and Jim Gunn is available at the Conflict Docs website: https://www.theconflictdocs.com/Home 

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The Data Behind Love and Compatibility

Love and compatibility go hand-in-hand. If you want to find a partner with a balance of attraction and compatibility, listen to this episode! — Did you know that love and compatibility can be measured and calculated? My podcast guest, Zoey Charif, isn’t just redefining how we think about love — she’s giving us a blueprint […]

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Love and compatibility go hand-in-hand. If you want to find a partner with a balance of attraction and compatibility, listen to this episode!

Did you know that love and compatibility can be measured and calculated? My podcast guest, Zoey Charif, isn’t just redefining how we think about love — she’s giving us a blueprint for it. As the author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, Zoey spent nearly two decades decoding the patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a relentless drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about relationships.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why do people often choose partners who aren’t right for them, and how can they shift that?
  • What qualities actually lead to lasting relationships, even if they’re not immediately exciting?
  • What are some signs we’re repeating unhealthy relationship patterns?
  • How can someone strengthen their self-confidence after a breakup or rejection?
  • Why do you believe understanding yourself is the first step to finding the right partner?

EP 667: Zoey Charif – The Data Behind Love and Compatibility

Why do people often choose partners who aren’t right for them, and how can they shift that?

We are choosing based on attraction but not compatibility and traits. Couples who stay together tend to admire their partner and see them as slightly higher. Gottman says that the couples who stay together, the man has influence over the woman via admiration and vice versa. 

Couples who are either more compatibility focused (practicality type) or emotions focused (chemistry). You can be on a continuum of either of these, healthy or extreme. To last, you need to have a healthy balance of both, especially the healthy emotional category.

What qualities actually lead to love and compatibility, even if they’re not immediately exciting?

Honesty, communication, dependability are key. A match is based on a shared set of values. You have a self score and a partner score. That accounts for compatibility but not attractions. I created a trait preference assessment to help understand someone’s traits. 

How can someone strengthen their self-confidence after a breakup or rejection?

At the end of the book, I share my journey to building self-confidence after my breakup and how I met my husband. Every day, I journaled about my self-score and my ex-partner’s score and the trait preferences. It was so revealing. My number one was dependability and honesty, but I had given myself a much lower score than was warranted. I had given my ex a high score in both, and I was delusional about that. I removed the illusion. I had been suffering from an infatuation distortion. I had a blindfold on. Once I did the calculations, I began to heal. There was a misalignment. Love has to be mutual. Don’t put people on a pedestal. 

I met my husband, Kevin at a dog park. He didn’t fit the usual traits I enjoy, so I wasn’t super attracted, but the values aligned, so I gave it time. He’s younger than I am, and I thought that was important, but he has an old soul and is a good person. I was able to let that go. The next area was cultural. I thought someone had to have the same background, but that wasn’t important in the long run. We began laughing together, which was what I thought I needed from someone with a similar cultural background.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

Look for your rock. Be mindful and honest about the traits you’re attracted to so you can co-create a healthy, long-term relationship. Identify if you’re holding onto the pain of a past relationship or self-doubt, because that will impact your future relationship. Identify your values and traits. Don’t box yourself in about what you’re attracted to, especially if your nervous system is activated. Self reflect and heal your unhealthy patterns.

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How Women Are Redefining Intimacy and Dating Standards

How are women today redefining intimacy and dating standards? Listen to this episode with Morgan Hewett to find out! — How are women redefining intimacy and dating standards? My podcast guest, Morgan Hewett, is a second-time founder and Harvard Business School MBA building Devin, an AI powered vibrator + erotic audio experience for women. She […]

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How are women today redefining intimacy and dating standards? Listen to this episode with Morgan Hewett to find out!

How are women redefining intimacy and dating standards? My podcast guest, Morgan Hewett, is a second-time founder and Harvard Business School MBA building Devin, an AI powered vibrator + erotic audio experience for women. She previously founded and sold a generative-AI health tech startup and now focuses on modern dating, female desire, and why women are rewriting the rules of relationships in the AI era.

In this episode:

  • Why so many successful women opt out of conventional dating
  • How to tell the difference between loneliness and desire for a partner
  • The role of technology in emotional and sexual fulfillment
  • Mindset shifts to date with confidence

EP 711: Morgan Hewett – How Women Are Redefining Intimacy and Dating Standards

Highlights from this episode

What is Devin?

  • Morgan Hewitt, Harvard MBA, is the founder of Devin (AI-powered vibrator + interactive erotic audio).
  • Devin: device with sensors for adaptive vibration + customizable interactive audio voice/fantasy.
  • Target users span ages 30–65; many presale signups from women 40–65.
  • Use cases include solo pleasure, partner-enhancement, and therapeutic support for trauma survivors.

Dating trends & why women opt out of dating

  • Increasing numbers of women single by choice; many report equal or greater life satisfaction when single.
  • Economic independence raises expectations: women now prioritize emotional availability, not just financial stability.
  • Generational shift: younger men (Gen Z) show more emotional intelligence; older cohorts may lag.
  • Toxic relationship patterns and trauma lead some women to delay or avoid dating.

AI, privacy, and ethical concerns

  • Privacy caution: large AI platforms may use conversational data for ads; Devin emphasizes limited/no collection of PII and safe onboarding (use of fantasy identities).
  • Ethical concern: AI replacing human creators/artists and full replacement of human relationships is troubling.
  • Devin positions AI as augmentation (self-exploration, rehabilitation, sexual literacy), not replacement for human intimacy.

Practical takeaways for dating & sexual health

  • Self-knowledge and self-pleasure improve communication and relationship satisfaction.
  • Tools like Devin can help people experiment safely, build sexual literacy, and practice intimacy (including for PTSD recovery).
  • Dating advice: be authentic, set boundaries, cultivate self-attraction before seeking validation from others.

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Sex After Grief: How to Navigate Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved

How do we navigate sex after grief? How do we nurture ourselves as sexual beings when we’re grieving the death of a partner? — Sex after Grief is the first book to address sex and grief together and treat sex as a normal, positive, life-affirming part of emerging from such a difficult time. Author, Joan Price, […]

sex after grief

How do we navigate sex after grief? How do we nurture ourselves as sexual beings when we’re grieving the death of a partner?

Sex after Grief is the first book to address sex and grief together and treat sex as a normal, positive, life-affirming part of emerging from such a difficult time. Author, Joan Price, is an award-winning writer specializing in sex and aging. She has written four books about senior sex, including Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex and Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved. At age 81, Joan Price continues to talk out loud about senior sex – partnered or solo.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How to know when it’s time to start dating and seeking a sexual connection after loss
  • What to say to people who try to tell you what’s “right” or “appropriate” and what isn’t
  • The most common reason for guilt or shame when considering opening up to a new partner
  • Personal details about Joan’s own grief journey and attempts to get back into dating and sex

EP 642: Joan Price – Sex After Grief

How do you know when it’s time to start dating and seeking a sexual connection again?

You don’t know. Everyone has their own timeline as to when it’s time to welcome someone into their life. You’re ready when you want a partner’s touch, but you’re still in love with your dead spouse. Sometimes, the person who’s dying gives them permission to move on. I believe everyone should have that conversation with your partner before they’re gone to release them from guilt once they die.

What do you say to people who try to tell you what’s “right” or “appropriate” and what isn’t?

Everyone has an opinion about how fast or slow you should move. We need to be able to say to people “I need to do this at my pace. Let’s talk about it.”

What’s the most common reason for guilt or shame when you’re considering opening yourself up to a new partner?

People think they’re betraying their deceased spouse. I have stories from grievers in my book of those who got that permission.

Your book includes very personal things about your own grief journey and your attempts to get back into dating and sex. Why was it important to reveal such personal details?

I loved talking about Robert after he died. I had grief counselors who helped me get back into the world. A counselor said, “What’s the story you tell yourself about where you are right now?” I said, “I have lost the love of my life and nothing will ever be the same again.” After working with him, I was able to say, “I had the love of my life, and I take that with me on my path.” That made me realize I could move on, not abandoning him to find someone else. It made me who I am and let me open my heart when I was ready to invite someone else in.  We can love two people. 

I tread a fine line between not being open and being open and not too explicit. I’m open because people aren’t. When I first started talking about senior sex, no one was doing it and making it fun and sexy. Grief books don’t talk about sex. I needed to give people what they needed to hear. And I invited grievers to tell their own stories. (Here’s an article on sex toys on Joan’s blog)

What went into the decision to update the 2019 book and add more chapters in 2024?

A lot has changed since I wrote the book. I met another partner eight years ago, and he’s still in my life. He’s also widowed. That was important to me. We knew what we needed and we knew how to embrace our histories as part of our love affair. We are in a live apart together relationship. It’s wonderful. In 2024, I wanted to add new chapters about living apart together and other ways of being in a relationship.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

Every first date is an opportunity to practice dating skills, listening skills, and evaluate what you do and don’t want. That’s how you’ll go on your last first date.

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How to Rethink Our Approach to Modern Dating After 40

Is modern dating broken? Emma Smith says NO, we just need to rethink our approach to dating in the 21st century. — Is modern dating broken? My podcast guest, Emma Smith, is a licensed therapist who specializes in trauma, sex therapy, and LGBTQ+ healthcare. A former military consultant, she has been an advocate for LGBTQ+ […]

Is modern dating broken? Emma Smith says NO, we just need to rethink our approach to dating in the 21st century.

Is modern dating broken? My podcast guest, Emma Smith, is a licensed therapist who specializes in trauma, sex therapy, and LGBTQ+ healthcare. A former military consultant, she has been an advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and sexual assault survivors. She writes The Intimate Philosopher on Substack, and in her free time loves reading, running, crafting, and all things sparkly.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • The biggest myths about attraction and intimacy
  • The outdated dating advice people should ignore and what to focus on instead
  • How the unspoken “rules” impact dating and how people can break free from them
  • How people can cultivate more meaningful and fulfilling connections without feeling overwhelmed
  • A practical mindset shift or piece of advice to rethink our approach to love and intimacy

EP 662: Dr. Emma Smith – How to Rethink Our Approach to Modern Dating After 40

What are some of the biggest myths in modern dating about attraction and intimacy?

One myth is that we mistake chemistry for compatibility and comfort for connection. Neither is a good indicator for safety and depth. Just because you’re drawn to someone in the beginning doesn’t mean your lives will work together in the long run. Go on two dates minimum to see who you both are. Don’t look for the bonfire of sparks. Another myth is that intimacy is about closeness, but it’s also about space. Space to long for and be separate to get together. The final myth is that men only want sex and women only want love.

What outdated dating advice should people ignore, and what should they focus on instead?

Let go of the belief that texting too soon is too eager. We need to stop punishing availability. Let the other person that you had a great time and would love to see each other again soon.

Another dating “rule” is that it’s a woman’s job to be wanted, but she’s not supposed to ask for what she wants. You get to choose. Desire doesn’t bloom in control. It blooms in presence and authenticity. 

Ask yourself where this person is going to fit into your life. What do you need to share on a first or second date? Facts, a bit about your personality, but not your darkest secrets. Some things remain private. As you date more, ask what they do for fun, what type of vacationer are they? As you get to know them better and are ready for sex, share about your STIs and sexual preferences. 

What’s one practical mindset shift or piece of advice to rethink our approach to love and intimacy?

One mindset shift is that love isn’t something you earn, it’s something you co-create with another person. Ask yourself, what kind of love do I want to build with someone else? 

Another one is to make space for contradictions. That tension is something to be aware of. Don’t put yourself into a box to make yourself more likeable. Friction is helpful in a relationship.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

I encourage people to think about the things they value and like about themselves. When you go on a date, focus on those parts of you and the fact the person who’s right for you will like those special qualities that you have.

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