Want to know why people cheat? My podcast guest, Paul Keable, the Chief Strategy Officer of Ashley Madison, shares insights on cheating that may surprise you. — Why do people cheat? As Chief Strategy Officer of Ashley Madison, Paul Keable oversees the strategic direction of the dating site, Ashley Madison, emphasizing discretion, authenticity, and innovation […]

Want to know why people cheat? My podcast guest, Paul Keable, the Chief Strategy Officer of Ashley Madison, shares insights on cheating that may surprise you.

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Why do people cheat? As Chief Strategy Officer of Ashley Madison, Paul Keable oversees the strategic direction of the dating site, Ashley Madison, emphasizing discretion, authenticity, and innovation within the dating industry. Under his leadership, the platform has implemented initiatives such as user verification through government IDs to combat fraudulent activity and build trust among members. As the platform continues to evolve, Keable’s insights remain central to its ability to adapt and resonate with its growing global user base.

In this episode:

• Why do people cheat?
• What constitutes cheating in a relationship?
• How can cheating affect mental health?
• How can affairs save marriages?
• Are all affairs equal?
• What is a modern relationship and what are the rules of one?
• Should your affair remain a secret?

EP 654: Paul Keable – The Surprising Reasons Why People Cheat

The tagline of Ashely Madison is “Life is short. Have an affair.” Why do people cheat?

There’s a study about why men vs women cheat. They found that 80% of women cheated due to a sexless or orgasm-less marriage. They didn’t want to leave the marriage but wanted to have sex. They felt that the affair led to a better marriage and better life.

The reasons why men cheat are about emotional validation. We live in a world where men are told to be stoic and often don’t get the compliments women get. They’re looking for that validation. 

Why not open the marriage or speak about it with their spouse? Many people do talk about the issues and they’re not resolved. Also, divorce is expensive and carries other challenges people may not want to face.

What constitutes cheating in a relationship?

When we promise fidelity for life at the altar, we don’t always identify what cheating is. We need to define what monogamy and cheating is for you. Have a monogamy contract renewed every five years. Your parameters change over time.

How can cheating affect mental health?

Any adverse event in a relationship can affect mental health. How do we view the person who’s been cheated on? How do we view the cheater? If you’re in a sexless marriage with a spouse who doesn’t want to have sex anymore and you love them, what are your choices?

How can affairs save marriages?

If the affair doesn’t get discovered, it can have a positive effect on marriage. Sometimes, when there’s infidelity, it blows open the issues and forces couples to work things through.

Are all affairs equal?

Not all affairs are equal. There are people with spouses who can’t meet the needs of their spouse due to illness or other factors. An affair can fulfill sexual needs while you remain as a caretaker for your spouse.

Should your affair remain a secret?

It depends on the objective. Sometimes it forces hard conversations. We’re in the business of undisclosed affairs. Tell your affair partner what your intention is. We launched our business in the early two thousands when online dating was taking off. The office is our competition. Office affairs are often not a good place for affairs. CEOs with consensual affairs have been fired. It’s more risky.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

As a person who recently left a long marriage, start with the internal questions about your objective and intent in dating. What type of relationship do you want to be in? Who would you want to have that relationship with? What are the hard stops for you? Be clear about those things, and you’ll have a much easier time finding your match.

Website https://www.ashleymadison.com/

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What’s wrong with dating apps today? Discover how to overcome dating app issues – and learn how to date more successfully. — Dating apps can feel broken due to choice overload, which leads to shallow connections and difficulty committing. Ready for something that’s more intentional? My podcast guest, Ludovic Huraux is CEO of Amata, an […]

What’s wrong with dating apps today? Discover how to overcome dating app issues – and learn how to date more successfully.

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Dating apps can feel broken due to choice overload, which leads to shallow connections and difficulty committing. Ready for something that’s more intentional? My podcast guest, Ludovic Huraux is CEO of Amata, an AI matchmaking app designed for intentional daters. His first dating platform in Paris led to more than 2,000 weddings, and he later founded Shapr, a networking app that connected millions before its acquisition. He has dedicated his career to helping people build meaningful connections, both romantic and professional.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• Lessons from helping 2,000+ couples find lasting love, and what it taught him about real compatibility
• Why today’s dating apps feel broken, and how people can date more intentionally
• How to get AI to think like a human matchmaker, and what early insights from Amata reveal about modern dating
• The future of dating, including where technology can help, and where it should step back

EP 682: Ludovic Huraux – Why Dating Apps Feel Broken (and how people can date more intentionally)

What are some lessons you learned about compatibility from helping 2,000+ couples find lasting love?

Physical attraction is important, but not as important as people might think. In swiping apps, people make their choices based on a photo, but that doesn’t usually work in the long run. One challenge is to make people aware that the person isn’t right for them. AI helps them use the right criteria for compatibility.

Why do today’s dating apps feel broken, and how can people date more intentionally?

We tried to promote less time online and meeting in person in real life as soon as possible. See if you share values. AI’s questions are completely different. We remove the swipe before the date, and your conversation with AI is very personal. After talking with AI, it will pitch you matches and take feedback to help you find your match. It replicates the experience of a human matchmaker.

Four steps to make a match

1. Get to know you
2. Pitch compatible people
3. Organize a date if both want to meet
4. Debrief dates and collect feedback

AI matchmaker is available 24 hours a day and is much cheaper than a human matchmaker.

How can someone get AI to think like a human matchmaker, and what do early insights from your app Amata reveal about modern dating?

On Tinder, you need 57 matches to go on one real date. With Amata, we cut the time spent online and make better matches. If someone cancels two dates in a row, they are banned for seven dates. This cuts back on unintentional daters.

What do you believe is the future of dating, including where technology can help, and where it should step back?

AI can improve matchmaking. The next step will be working on the coaching experience as well, because both are important for finding lasting love.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

AI experience makes the dating experience more human. It is much more helpful than a swiping app. It’s more conversational, it accepts feedback and applies it to improve matching. The next generation of AI matchmaking will help people find love. Go on real dates. Meet people in real life, because that’s where you fall in love.

Connect with Ludovic

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ludovic-huraux-11a441 
• Amata app: https://www.amata.ai/ 
• IG: https://www.instagram.com/amata_app 

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If you’re in a relationship and asking yourself, “Should I stay or should I go?”, this episode is for you! — The age old question: should I stay or should I go. Well, you’re in luck, because my podcast guest, Sharon Pope, wrote the book on this subject! She’s a certified Master Life Coach and […]

If you’re in a relationship and asking yourself, “Should I stay or should I go?”, this episode is for you!

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The age old question: should I stay or should I go. Well, you’re in luck, because my podcast guest, Sharon Pope, wrote the book on this subject! She’s a certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert helping people get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages. She’s a seven-time international best-selling author on love and relationships, including Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret, which has sold more than 300,000 copies. She is host of the podcast, “The Loving Truth,” and her work has appeared in numerous media outlets and online publications, including the “Modern Love” column of The New York Times.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• The Five Words Killing Our Marriages Today
• How to Tell if Your Relationship Is Past Saving
• How to argue well
• Ways to Build Intimacy in Your Relationship
• Why Divorce Should Always Be an Option

EP 635: Sharon Pope – Should I Stay or Should I Go?

What are the five words that are killing marriages today?

“’Til death do us part”. When you’re married, there can be a big change as to how you treat your partner. Most people don’t continue dating and prioritizing relationships like they did before marriage. If you rest on your laurels and think you don’t have to nourish your relationship once you’re married, your marriage will probably fall apart.

How can you tell if your marriage or relationship is worth saving?

We’re taught love is easy. When it gets hard, that’s when your relationship begins. What makes it worthwhile are qualities like self awareness and personal responsibility for actions and words. Do you both have a growth mindset? Do you trust each other? How do you communicate? How well do you argue? Those are the qualities you should be looking at in your relationship.

How can people learn to argue well?

Begin with listening well. We can all get better at it. Use feeling words, and be willing to hear the other person. Get curious about what the other person would like from you. Own your triggers. Don’t make others responsible for tiptoeing around your triggers.

How can you build more intimacy in your relationship?

To create more intimacy in your relationship, you need trust and vulnerability. Be yourself and feel safe to do that. There should be a weekly meeting where you’re talking about your relationship. What’s working, what’s not, and where can we reach for a little more in our relationships. Make it a ritual. That’s a bond that you do together.

To create more spiciness, we need to tap into the part of ourselves that is desire – unpredictability and spontaneity. We need security/predictability and spontaneity to have a sexier relationship. Pay attention to that part of your relationship.

When asking yourself, “should I stay or should I go?”, why should divorce always be an option?

The goal is to be happy, but not picture perfect. If the relationship really isn’t working, there’s always the option to leave. There are going to be attributes in every partnership that are not loveable. And that’s okay. When one of you is no longer to take responsibility, it’s over. 

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

The most important thing anyone can do is equip yourself with relationship tools. You can’t be successful at anything in life without training. 

Connect with Sharon

• Website – https://www.sharonpope.com  
• Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SharonPopeCoach 
• Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sharonpopecoach/ 
• The Loving Truth Podcast  https://sharonpope.com/podcast/ 
• FREE Video Coursesharonpopefreetraining.com/

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Highly successful women often struggle to find their match when they’re dating. My podcast guest, Bob Grant, sheds light on why this happens. — Attention highly successful women who struggle to find lasting love! Help is on the way with my podcast guest, Bob Grant, a clinically trained relationship expert, podcaster, and bestselling author of […]

Highly successful women often struggle to find their match when they’re dating. My podcast guest, Bob Grant, sheds light on why this happens.

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Attention highly successful women who struggle to find lasting love! Help is on the way with my podcast guest, Bob Grant, a clinically trained relationship expert, podcaster, and bestselling author of The Woman Men Adore. He’s the founder of Relationship Headquarters, where he specializes in helping women emotionally connect with men, attract true love, get married, and, for those in a relationship, learn how to connect and relate more effectively.   

In this episode of Last First Date Radio

• How successful women can navigate between being powerful at work and more feminine in dating without losing their authentic selves
• Busting the myth that successful women intimidate men
• The meaning of “emotional authenticity”
• The difference between surrendering in love vs giving up your power

EP 644 : Bob Grant – Dating Advice for Highly Successful Women

Many highly successful women say they have to be ‘masculine’ at work but ‘feminine’ in dating – yet that switch feels impossible. How do you help women navigate this delicate balance without losing their authentic selves?

When women are in their feminine, they are softer, and it softens men. It brings out a softer side. And it kicks in men’s desire to be a protector. To make the switch without losing your authentic self, leave your work self at work. Decide which energy you want to be embodying on dates. Ask yourself “how do I want to be treated?” Pat Allen said, “Do you want to be cherished or respected more?” To be cherished, we need to step into the softer, more receptive self.

There’s this myth that successful women intimidate men. But you have a fascinating perspective on what’s really happening in these dynamics – can you break this down for us?

It’s not that they intimidate men. It’s that they can be competitive when they bring their work self to a date. If a man is not reaching out or making an effort early on, he will probably do that in the long run. Pay attention early on if he will show up for you. 

I’m curious about something you call ’emotional authenticity.’ How does this differ from the vulnerability we often hear about, especially for women who are used to being in control?

Emotional authenticity is about matching your emotion with what’s going on for you. For example, when you cry, men appreciate that you feel safe enough with him to cry. State your emotions to help men understand.

Let’s talk about surrender – a word that makes many ambitious women uncomfortable. How do you help women understand the difference between surrendering in love versus giving up their power?

Surrender is about yielding. These are women who are in charge of everything at work, and they don’t want to do that at home. If you want to be loved or cared for by someone who’s got their back and will support them in times of need, you need to surrender to a man’s desire to care for you.

What are your final words of advice for highly successful women who want to go on their last first date?

Can you have an attitude of curiosity early on? It will soften you and remind him that you’re ‘all of this and brains, too’. It gets you out of your head to see if you can talk and connect enough to go on another date.

Connect With Bob

• FBhttps://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHeadquarters 
• IG https://www.instagram.com/relationship_headquarters 
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@Relationshipheadquarters    
• Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relationshipheadquarters-with-bob-grant/id1726514077 
• Free Gift: What Men Find Irresistible, 3 ways to unlock a man’s heart https://relationshiphq.ac-page.com/irresistible-web

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